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Finding romance on your Chiang Mai holiday

A delicate topic, but one that deserves to be talked about because so many people go to Chiang Mai (see our Chiang Mai travel guide to find out why) either as a travel destination or on their way to the Mekong River and Chiang Rai, hoping to find a Thai girl friend or maybe even a Thai wife. And because the beautiful Thai girls in Chiang Mai bars are very friendly, especially to western visitors. But there are some do’s and don’ts you need to understand if you are looking for love in Chiang Mai, or even if you are just looking for a Chiang Mai escort to help you enjoy your stay.

Check out TripAdvisor for the cheapest flights to Chiang Mai …

If you’re also going to Phuket or Pattaya, don’t forget to check out our blog posts about Thai girls in Phuket and Thai girls in Pattaya and How to meet girls in Thailand!

Thai girls at a bar in Chiang Mai
Thai girls at a sports bar in Chiang Mai

First of all, it helps if you understand that many of the friendliest girls in Chiang Mai are working girls of one kind or another. The friendliest of all are usually bar girls (and that doesn’t mean Thai women who work behind the bar, although some do) and “body massage” girls. These girls want just one thing from you … your money. And if you have plenty of money and don’t mind spending it on them, you’ll do just fine.

See which girl-griendly Chiang Mai bachelor hotels allow you to bring girls back to your room.

Chiang Mai massage parlors

Thai girls in a massage parlor window in Chiang Mai

Let’s talk a little about “massage parlors” first. There are lots of these in Chiang Mai, and some even offer pretty good traditional massages, but many are fronts for naughty girls and prostitution. But Thai girls in Chiang Mai are not like Pattaya girls, they are much more reserved and less obvious. Because there’s been a crack-down on them in recent years, the sex parlors tend to be hidden away more these days but that doesn’t mean they are necessarily hard to find. Look around the big entertainment complexes for small shops with mirrored shop-fronts – these allow the girls to see you walking past (and usually come out) but stop the police from seeing what’s going on inside.

So-called “soapy massage parlors” in Chiang Mai are fronts for brothels

The Thai women in these “massage parlors” are typically busy and business-like, so if this is your taste in Chiang Mai girls, don’t expect too much loving or even intimacy from them. For the most part you’ll get a bubble bath, a romp in the sack and a tour of the front door, all in less than an hour. And you’ll pay around 1000-2000 Baht for the privilege, depending on how much you haggle. And you will most likely come away with more than you bargained for, as sexual diseases (including HIV) are not uncommon.

You can get “soapy” with bar girls in Chiang Mai during Songkran for free! See Songkran 2015 in Thailand for more.

There is another flavour of “massage parlour” in Chiang Mai, sometimes called a “dirty massage”. This is similar to the traditional Thai massage you get in a real massage parlour, except of course it goes the extra mile … if you know what I mean. Sometimes these are offered “on the side” by girls in traditional massage parlours too, but don’t expect it or you may be both disappointed and distressed by the response. The best place to find “dirty massages” is around the Loi Kroh Road area, and you will pay about 500 Baht more than for a traditional massage.

Girly bars in Chiang Mai

Bar girls in Chiang Mai Thailand

So what about the “girly bars“? There’s plenty of them in Chiang Mai and the Thai women who hang around them are usually pretty outgoing and friendly to western (and even Asian) tourists. Not all the girls who hang around in bars in Chiang Mai are prostitutes, so don’t assume anything – many are girls who have respectable day jobs and go to these places to meet a foreigner who might change their life, if even for a few weeks. Often there are no expectations of a long-term relationship, although some will definitely be looking for husbands – especially rich husbands (and when you flash big bills around you certainly look rich to them).


Be aware that many of the girls in the girly bars will already have western boyfriends and even western husbands. Just because they are in a bar doesn’t mean they’re single! They may be looking for someone to pay for their drinks until their partner shows up.

Read Avoiding scams in Thailand for some useful tips.

Here’s a perspective from one single guy on how to get the most from Chiang Mai’s nightlife.

Some of the popular girly bars in Chiang Mai include…

Spotlight A GoGo Bar, Chiang Mai

Spotlight A GoGo Bar on Kotchasan Road between Loi Kroh Road and the Tha Pae Gate has sexy girls on stage and many more hanging around waiting for that special friend to walk in and buy them a drink.

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Foxy Lady Bar, Chiang Mai

Foxy Lady behind the Night Bazaar on Loi Kroh Road has prettier Thai women, but is also more expensive and offers more “range” of services.

Finally, if you can’t find what you want online, or in Loi Kroh Road, there’s a couple of other places in Chiang Mai where the desperate and lonely go to find some lovin’ …

Loi Kroh Road
Chiang Mai Massage Parlour

Chiang Mai Massage Parlour on the corner of Huay Kaew Road and Cholpratan Road, next to the appropriately named Phucome Hotel, attracts its fair share of working girls, charging around 1000 to 1500 Baht. It’s a bit tacky but gets a lot of business.

bachelor hotels in Chiang Mai
Sayuri Complex Chiang Mai

Sayuri Complex on Bumrungrat Road, east of the Ping River, is a bit more upmarket but tends to get loads of Asian tourists, so it gets very busy and a bit hard to get into to. For 1000 Baht or so, you can get a massage with the lot.

Porn Phayom (also appropriately named) on the corner of Suthep Road and Wing 41 Road (the airport link) has no English signage and you have to enter through the back door.

Please, no lectures on the morals of this page. We all know there are lots of guys who are looking for this information. We’re not encouraging anyone to do this, just letting those who already will do it know the best places to go without getting into too much trouble.

Best girl-friendly bachelor hotels in Chiang Mai

If you want to be able to take a girl back to your hotel in Chiang Mai, these are the best places to stay (where you won’t be made to feel like a criminal):

BP Chiangmai City Hotel 1 BP Chiangmai City Hotel 2

BP Chiang Mai City Hotel (from 730 Bt) – On Ratmankha Road in the old city, good buffet breakfast, nice pool with bar, a little tired.

Hotel M Chiang Mai 1 Hotel M Chiang Mai 3

Hotel M Chiang Mai (from 1,400 Bt) – on Ratchadamnoen Road in the old city, near the Thapae Gate and Walking Street, small rooms.

Lai Thai Hotel and Guest House Lai Thai Hotel and Guest House 2

Lai Thai Hotel and Guest House (from 800 Bt) – on Kotchasom Road just outside the old city, next to Chiang Mai Gate, clean and comfortable, pool and nice bar.

Chiang Mai Ratanakosin Hotel 1 Chiang Mai Ratanakosin Hotel 2

Chiang Mai Ratanakosin Hotel (from 1,200 Bt) – On Ratanakosin Road near the Ping River, good service, friendly staff, nice breakfasts, dated by large rooms.

Maninarakorn Hotel 1 Maninarakorn Hotel 2

Maninarakorn Hotel (from 1,340 Bt) – On Sridonchai Road near the Night Bazaar, modern decor, spacious rooms, fitness centre, pool, good food, breakfast included.

Tamarind Village 1 Tamarind Village 2

Tamarind Village (from 4,680 Bt) – On Ratchadamnoen Road in the old city, very central, great food, nicely furnished, friendly staff, close to weekend markets.

Puripinn Baby Grand Boutique Hotel 1 Puripinn Baby Grand Boutique Hotel 2

Puripinn Baby Grand Boutique Hotel (from 5,175 Bt) – On Soi 2 off Charoen Muang Road over the Ping River, nice decor, lanna timber features, large balcony, nice pool, friendly staff.

Shangri-La Hotel 1 Shangri-La Hotel 2

Shangri-La Hotel (from 10,890 Bt) – On Chang Klan Road south of the Night Bazaar, beautiful hotel, fantastic staff, small gym with sauna, good food, nice location.

Four Seasons Resort 1 Four Seasons Resort 2

Four Seasons Resort (from 18,640 Bt) – On Mae Rim Old Road at Mae Rim, very private, excellent service, beautiful grounds, clean rooms with balcony, nice restaurant.

Check out the Thai girls in Chiang Mai!

Check out this YouTube video shot by Sasalimone in the Maya Cafe Chiang Mai for the answer …

Check out the Thai girls in Phuket!

If you’re itinerary doesn’t run as far north as Chiang Mai, we’ve also covered the pros and cons (so to speak) of Thai girls in Phuket, Thai girls in Pattaya and How to meet girls in Thailand.

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Tony and Tracy Gilbert are veteran Asian travellers with experience living and travelling in Thailand, Vietnam, Cambodia, China, Malaysia, Singapore, Indonesia and other Asian countries. Tony is a former journalist and editor who writes for many travel websites.


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